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An Energy Boost Brings you MORE

June 8, 2011

As a writer, I am constantly looking for the perfect words to express my emotions, but sometimes… they just don’t exist. The amount of beauty I have seen in the last two weeks fuels my faith that we *are* changing the world — one step at a time. I won’t deny that we are still on the uphill side of the battleground, but we are fighting hard and making a difference. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for constantly pushing yourself to be better than you were the day before! It reminds me of my favorite quote:

Our lives are the books people read.

By the way we live and the words we speak, we cannot stop setting an example.

~Anonymous

In May, Eternal Light Energy announced an international search for artwork and poetry for my upcoming book, Your Spiritual Toolbox, Guide to Practical Spirituality. Almost daily, new art and poetry came in. Each piece expressed the artist’s passion. Your Spiritual Toolbox has been a co-creation since the very beginning. Each tool was inspired by a question submitted to Inspirations from Binah, and now every poem and illustration comes directly from your creative mind. It has been an incredibly inspiring experience to read through Your Spiritual Toolbox and match spiritual tool to work of art.

Thanks to you, the manuscript is complete and is being submitted to various publishers. Please send abundant manifestation energy so that the perfect publisher sees the importance of presenting this collaborative and inspirational work to the world!


Writing Notes with Grammy

Writing Notes with Grammy, on Flickr

With the book complete, I am moving into a new level of teaching and writing. Monthly study group classes in Sacred Geometry and Kabbalah constantly have me searching for new lessons. I have been studying architecture, physiology and history to gain a greater understanding of how to best create spiritual tools to flow directed energy. Between this new-found energy and my recent trip to Damanhur, I find my sleep patterns altered to include more work in dream time in less hours. ~~ Energy Explosion! ~~

One of the marvelous consequences of this energy boost has been more sharing through Inspirations from Binah and the Practical Spirituality Fanpage on topics like:

  • Looking for love filled relationships
  • Learn how to better accept uncertainty
  • How to live an abundant life
  • Soul searching and self-love
  • Releasing in order to grow

 

Every day is an opportunity to learn something new. Share your experiences and become part of the Practical Spirituality community!

If you are looking for advice on a specific question, browse Inspirations from Binah or submit your own question. All questions are encouraged, for when you are in the thick of things, there is no such thing as a small problem.

If you would like to deepen your knowledge in a specific area, visit Eternal Light Energy and explore the Workshops and Study Groups.

If you are not sure what you are looking for and would like to have a guided, spiritual consultation, yvette is available for frank Spiritual Discussions.

 

Time for me to get back to writing, I have an article due for Presence, the online magazine by Whispers of Spirit. If you have any suggestions on the topics you would like to read about or a question for Inspirations from Binah, send me your ideas!

Let the pen, or keyboard, be your sword!

-yvette Soler

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How can my partner and I communicate better?

May 13, 2011

Marty writes:

There are certain issues my partner and I just do not see eye to eye on and I think it has to do with not communicating effectively. We are so alike in our thinking, but our communication is not always the best. Any tips?


Inspirations from Binah replies:

Communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship. Whether with friends, family or loved ones, it is important to feel like you can talk freely about your feelings, instead of hiding behind doubt and fear. While you and your partner may be very alike, until you learn how to share through honest dialogue, you will constantly feel like there is something “missing” in the relationship.

Speaking your mind is often easier said than done, and sometimes for very good reason. While we want to be honest, there is no doubt that there are some topics you just don’t discuss in mixed company. In my family, politics is completely off limits. After years of arguing our positions, we have learned that this broad subject only leads to bad feelings and hours of angrily talking in circles. But what we have learned by working through our communication issues is that while political talk is out, specific events can be discussed if they come from a place of curiosity and desire to understand the other’s point of view. We know that we are different, therefore we don’t kid ourselves by thinking we can change the other person, but talking about something concrete gives us an opportunity to hear another person’s thoughts and ask probing questions with respect, not anger. We often act like scientists attempting experiments we know will fail in order to learn what caused the results to be different from what we wanted.

When you say that you and your partner don’t see eye to eye, is it the communication style or subject matter? Style can be modified as long as both parties are willing to give a little. If you think fast and your partner requires more time, you can try a method such as email or chat which gives each person an opportunity to write a response at their own pace. It may seem informal, but if each of you process at a different speed, then text will even out the playing field. It will also give someone that is hot-headed an opportunity to cool down before saying something hurtful. In other words, think outside the box and use all the communication tools at your disposal. Contrary to popular thought, face-to-face is not always the best way to talk.

If you want communication to flow, watch your language for words that can come off as judgmental, angry or snippy. Focus on compassion and love, even if you don’t like what you are hearing. This will encourage honesty and openness.

One way to get to the heart of your communication issues and explore new solutions is with the use of twin crystals. When two crystals share a common side, such as two pieces/points that were originally side-by-side in a cluster, these are called twins. Just like biological twins, the two crystals will have shared DNA, creating an unbreakable bond between them that facilitates the transfer of energy.

chinese quartz crystal cluster

chinese quartz crystal cluster by kafka4prez

Twin Crystal

Communication

For this work, you will need a pair of twin, clear quartz crystals. Clear quartz acts as an amplifier, ensuring that you amplify a person’s thoughts and feelings without adding any properties from the crystal. The crystals should be purified and have an equal, balanced energy.

Sit in front of the person you wish to communicate with. Create a united sacred space, calling upon any guides you wish to help you through this process. It is highly recommended that the Higher Selves of each person be invoked and that there is an explicit ask to help facilitate the conversation.

When you are ready, the first person that wishes to ask a question holds one crystal in his/her left hand while the other person holds the twin in his/her right hand. The left hand is the receiving side, for this is the person that is seeking an answer. The right hand is the giving side, the person supplying the answer. Coming from a place of curiosity and compassion, ask the first question. Choose your words carefully, removing any assumptions or judgment. Allow time to receive an answer through the crystal, without the giver speaking. The receiver should express freely, channeling the words as they come.

When you have received all that has been given, begin a dialog. Communicate freely, yet with respect. Remember, you are trying to understand your partner, not fight for change. This is an opportunity to speak and be heard. If you need clarification and can’t find it in the discussion, ask another question through the crystal. Ask as many questions as necessary to help facilitate a dialog, switching who asks as needed.

As you work through this process, take note of the things that flow well in the conversation and points that were heated. Make adjustments accordingly to maintain a balanced energy flow. If tensions rise, take a deep breath and feel a blue, calming energy wash over the space between you.

Use twin crystals to talk not only about specific subjects , but also about your individual communication styles so you can learn how to improve your relationship. Crystals break through the barriers created by our defense mechanisms, allowing vulnerable expression and compassionate healing.

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Longing for lost love/first love

May 5, 2011

Mun asks:

I am 42 and married and with 2 children. I have been having some marital issues stemming from a lack of intimacy and lack of financial support from my husband for the past few years, but I kept all these issues/problems to myself until last October when I burst out. At the same time, due to not wanting to face reality and wanting to escape from it all, I started thinking and looking up online a lost love from 21 years ago, my very first love.

There was so much love and passion with my first BF that it all came back when I saw his name online as I materialized his existence (I made believe he was dead for all these years). I know this is silly, but I have not stopped thinking about my first BF since last August and the vivid memories I have of him are from the past and I wonder how he is doing today and want to see him so badly, but I must control myself because I don’t want to do something stupid. I’m so glad he is out of state and reachable only by plane, but thoughts have come to mind to pick up the phone and catch up with him and arrange for a face to face meeting. I really miss him and feel so guilty as I am now married, but in a relationship where the love that I once felt for my spouse if slowly fading away.

I know this is not healthy and need some advice. My spouse is aware of our issues and is working on putting his act together, but I am very confused with what is going on with my feeling and emotions. Do I call my ex to put some closure to a relationship from 21 years ago or just let it go and live life as usual? I am afraid that not knowing about my ex is more of a torture now that he is back in my mind than to pretend that he does not exist. It took me about 8 years to move on and forget him when I was in my 20′s, but it only took minutes to bring him back to my mind and memory and I feel that I cannot easily remove him from my psych if I don’t put a closure to the relationship that I once had with him unless I contact him. I appreciate the advice you can provide… thanks!


Inspirations from Binah replies:

A friend recently said to me that with social networks, you can never really escape your past.  Unless you change your name or never go online, gone are the days when you graduate from high school and leave behind your small town.  If you are online, anyone can find you… and with a little perseverance, you can find anyone.  I tend to think this is a good thing because it makes us face the past instead of running away from it.  I mean, how can you really move forward in life if you have a festering wound you keep ignoring?

Like it or not, your feelings for your first boyfriend exists.  Judging or labeling them as unhealthy is only going to add confusion, so release those thoughts.  As human beings, we have a tendency to romanticize the past.  While there is nothing wrong with this, it is important to recognize that our memories are not always accurate.  Basic defense mechanisms minimize pain and maximize beauty, this is why we often find ourselves repeating hurtful patterns — we forget the suffering until we are back in it.

Regardless of what “may” be, until you work through your own issues, there is no point in contacting your first BF.  Seeing him again will not make the problems in your marriage disappear.  Now is the time to look honestly at yourself to find the thought patterns and behaviors that have contributed to the marital discord.  Once these have been healed, you can look at the situation with fresh eyes and determine whether you leave your marriage to pursue the past or close that door forever.

Sit in the present moment and acknowledge that you and your first BF shared something special.  Give yourself permission to reconnect to those feelings of young love and wonder without attaching to the person.  Your goal is to bring this energy back into your life, exploring all the avenues that can take you there.

White tailed fawn close

White tailed fawn close

Your Spirit Animal is Born

Spring is upon us in the northern hemisphere, so it is appropriate to call upon the animal kingdom to help you.  In the woods, a fawn has been born to help guide your way.  This spirit animal is here to gently teach you.  A deer never pushes for change, rather it nudges you in the direction of acceptance, for the balance of true power lays in love and compassion.

This spring, consciously connect to your fawn in search of learning and healing.  You can place a figurine next to your bed to guide you in dream time, meditate on a picture or go into nature and commune with one in the physical.  Every time you connect, allow the  fawn’s energy to melt the barriers that separate you from seeing your patterns.  Let your spirit animal shower you with unconditional love as you work through your fears and pain.

When a deer totem enters your world, a new innocence and freshness in about to be awakened. New adventures are just around the corner and there will be an opportunity to express the gentle love that will open new doors for you.  -Ina Woolcott


When Summer begins, your fawn will have reached a new level of maturity, and with its growth you will have found the answers you seek.  In sacred ceremony, thank the fawn for all you have been taught and allow it to return to nature.  Your deer will always be with you in spirit, providing loving support and gentle guidance.  You will learn how to listen to your heart and recognize that sometimes the higher good requires a sacrifice.  Only when you are free of expectations can you find the alternative path that will lead you to your goal.



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Spring Flings – Does it matter where they take us?

May 2, 2011
The world through my eyes

The world through my eyes

A simple smile… Sparkling eyes… A short giggle… Spring is in the air.  All around me I am being shown the renewal birthed by this marvelous energy.  Mercury is happily on its direct path creating opportunities for subtle communications through all the senses.

I *love* this time of year, and not just because my birthday is right around the corner. ;)

I love listening to my friends tell me stories of new romances.  Not all these romances are with people; sometimes the love affair with the perfect pair of jeans or the beautiful ring found at a local thrift store can be just as exciting as flesh and blood.  It is all about contact and sharing – that is what I live for.  There is so much promise at the beginning.  Everything is new and wonderful and full of possibilities.

To truly enjoy all there is to experience, you have to embrace the uncertainty.  During winter, we traveled through our shadows shining light on the cobwebs.  Some dusting here, some heavy cleaning there… All with the goal of creating a special place for the radiant spring light we knew would be coming.

If you did your internal work these last few months, the world seems open to everything.  You are connected to Source, believe in yourself and trust you are being guided with each step.  It takes faith to release the fear and flow with what you are feeling, especially when you know it may end.  Then again, part of that faith is trusting that the journey is more important than the destination.  Instead of asking yourself a million questions about what *exactly* is happening, why not thrust your head out the window and take in the sights and smells, letting the wind carry away your concerns?

Intellectually, I am well aware that all this may disappear.  The jeans start to fade, the ring gets lost, the person you were cuddling with stops calling, but that is part of the cycle of life.  Just because you may not have something in the future does not mean you should pass it up now.  Life is meant to be experienced, so when you have an opportunity: go for it.  Besides, you never know what may happen.  I still have jeans from when I was in high school, and they look better on me now than they did then.

When I was a young, ugly ducking in junior high, I came across a phrase that struck me:
If you see something you want and you go for it, you may not get it, but if you see something you want and you don’t go for it, then you definitely don’t get it. It seems like the worse that can happen either way is that you don’t get it, so what do you have to lose?

I have lived by that credo all my life.  It has taken me to great heights and into deep pits, but there are no regrets.  Fueled by the warm spring air, I continue embracing every opportunity, trusting Source will show me the way.

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I want to release my longing for an unhealthy love, suggestions?

February 11, 2011

From Nathaniel:

I just recently fell out of love with someone.  This person was someone who came into my life and immediately captured my heart.  She was so wild and so unlike myself in so many ways that I was immediately in love.  So this went on for a while on and off, until I went home to Florida.  While I was gone for only a few days she cheated on me, and in the next few days, with the help of her roommate especially, what we had totally fell apart.  I was utterly devastated as I had unknowingly invested quite a lot into her, and having all that gone at once was very hard to deal with.  Then all my friends started telling me how bad she was for me, which I understand and ultimately know is true.  Then about a week and a half ago she called me, apologizing for everything, and saying that she still loved me.  Then three days later she talks on her Facebook all about her new crush, so I immediately deleted her from my friends list.  I understand that she wasn’t good for me, and that she in so many ways put me in a very bad position, however everyday my idle thoughts turn to thinking about her.  I know even if we did get together again, at this point it wouldn’t be right, but I know that I still have a longing to be with her.  I want to find a way to be rid of these feelings, or at least find a way for me to move on, and develop new love once again.  Do you have any suggestions?

 

Inspirations from Binah:

A love shared by two people is something that can never be fully expunged, nor should it be.  There were some wonderful moments that when brought to mind will always fill you with the loving emotions of the experiences shared.  What you seek is not to forget her all together, but to reach a point where she is memory that lives in the past.  We underestimate the value and happiness of reminiscing.  The past is something we should treasure and learn from without trying to recreate it in the present.

With that goal in mind, are your thoughts of her rooted in an emotional cord that must be cut or a clean, yet still open, wound that is slowly healing?  From your words, you recognize that this is not the relationship for you and have accepted that you and she must go your separate ways.  You are walking the path of the Death card, so it is appropriate that to honor this parting you hold a formal ceremony.

If you feel that there is something that is pulling you back to her, cut the emotional cords using any of the methods shared in previous Inspirations from Binah answers titled:

With the cords cut, call upon the energy of the Phoenix and the purification power of its flaming death to release the last of your longing and cauterize the wound.

Phoenix Rebirth Ceremony

In a flame-proof location, create a small nest made out of twigs or small branches.  In the center, place some myrrh resin or incense.  Place over the myrrh something that reminds you of her; this can be an object, picture or even a piece of paper with her name on it.

Set your sacred space and call in your Higher Self and guardians.  Invoke the Phoenix and prepare for the transmutation through death.  When you are ready, set the nest and all the objects within it, on fire .  As the Phoenix burns, channel all your longing into the flame and ask for Archangel Rafael, the divine physician, to provide healing energy to soothe your heartache.

Allow the fire to completely burn out.  If possible, leave the ashes where they are, allowing the energy to regenerate and complete the healing process.  If they must be moved, put them in a box or someplace where thy will not be disturbed.  In three days, take the ashes and scatter them into nature, symbolizing the rebirth of the Phoenix.  Healthy and happy, the Phoenix circles the sky ready to begin again, just as you are now ready to continue your journey with an open heart.

Though it will take time for your lingering thoughts to find a new place to rest, when you feel especially vulnerable, call upon the Phoenix and allow it to burn away your longing and inspire your next steps.

 

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Am I wrong about my boyfriend? Is my intuition wrong?

February 3, 2011

From Vicky:

I have spirits trying to tell me something and I get all of the words confused. They are everywhere I look. I have seen names and words that sometimes match people I know, but often times I have no idea what they are or mean.  It is making me think that my boyfriend is cheating on me and that other things in my life are lies.  I took a picture and found a lady that does picture readings.  She said some things that were true and others that made no sense.

There is something not right gong on and I don’t think these messages have anything to do with my boyfriend even though I have this lady that did the picture reading and she said yes and others have said it too.  I had a session with a spirit artist awhile back and thought we were connecting with a guy I was close to over 25 years ago but when I got the picture it was someone I don’t know so she did it again for free and again It sounded like the my friend that I wanted to connect to but when she sent the picture it was another man I don’t know. She said she doesn’t know what happened if there was a crossed line or what, but she said they must have wanted to come through for a reason and for me to keep my eyes open.

I want to know if I am wrong about my boyfriend. Is my intuition wrong?  He tells me he doesn’t lie or cheat. I just want to know if I am wrong about what I feel or right. I am really struggling with this spirit communication and my intuition, I don’t know if I can trust what I am feeling as I do have a trust issue as it has happened many times to me in the past.

 

 

Inspirations from Binah:

Your intuition is a part of you, therefore the answers are within you.  You are relying on people outside of yourself to give you an answer that only you can find.  What work are you doing to develop your gifts?  What is your Higher Self telling you?  What tools are you developing to be in tune with your inner voice and heal the wounds of the past?

Be still and learn how to tune into your own feelings by first healing your wounds and then developing the language between your emotional and spiritual bodies.  Find the source of your blocks, the cords that are causing you to not trust the guidance you are receiving.  Though you are getting many names, those names may not be actual people you need to interact with.  Even if they exist in the physical, it is not about connecting to them as much as understanding how that energy fits into your present life.  Some may need to be purified, some transmuted and some attracted.  Only your internal guidance can tell you which is which.

To uncover the role of each name and picture, try this association exercise:

Write each name on separate small pieces of paper.   For the pictures, photo copy them onto individual pieces of paper of the same size.  When the picture and the name did not match, create papers for each (for example, one with the name of your friend from 25 years ago and one each picture you were given in the readings).  Have crayons or markers in the following colors: brown, green, red, and black.

Create your sacred space and call in your Higher Self and guides.  With your left hand, pick one piece of paper and put it to your forehead, over your third eye.  Take a minute and ask yourself, “Is this a name associated with a physical being I need to work with, emotional wound I need to heal, energy I need to purify or spiritual guidance I need to understand?”  With your eyes closed, choose one of the four colors with your right hand.  Draw a line on the piece of paper in that color and then set it aside.  Repeat this for all the names and pictures.

When you are done, go back through the papers and sort them by color:

  • Brown – person you need to work with in the physical
  • Green – Emotional wound to be healed
  • Red – Energy to be purified and released
  • Black – Spiritual Gift

With this information, you can begin to work with the names and pictures.  Open your Spiritual Toolbox and find the best tool for each situation.  If you find your toolbox is missing the tool you need, go out and find it.  Books, classes, internet… there are many ways to learn.  Only by learning how to speak the language of your messages will you be able to move forward.

 

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How do we see we are chasing rejection and heal it?

January 20, 2011

From Marina:

I tended to chase men who are ‘players’ and played “treat them mean to keep them keen”, and they were always certain types of masculine figures with what I thought were strong principles. I learnt later in my life that these types of figures, in a way, represented a whole package of how my father rejected me as a child and my views of how he should have been, appeared and behaved towards me.

The, treat them mean to keep them keen part, was subconsciously the rejection part from these type of figures. For me, when I chased, along with the strong negative emotions I felt, it was me saying subconsciously “I am not going to be rejected again!” My conscious self believed I was madly in love and hoped that he would like me and if he did, he will see what nice person I am and fall in love with me and that would make me happy. But really I wasn’t happy, I was chasing acceptance from a deep rooted rejection.

When I met my ex husband he appeared and behaved how my fantasy figure of a man should be, so I applied a face to the fantasy and failed to see the other aspects about him. I was basically chasing rejection so I can feel, “yes I am loved”. The relationship was destructive, he never really fulfilled my expectations.  Why? Because at the time I wasn’t aware that I didn’t know what my expectations really were? I didn’t really know me. I didn’t see any of this until after I was divorced and I feel this is a problem with a lot of men and women. I meet people who have gone through similar situations. We chase what’s not good for us. The key for me was to begin to love my self.

How do we make our selves see we are chasing rejection from the past and learn to love our selves instead in order to meet the ‘right’ mate for us?

 

Inspirations from Binah:

Deep seated childhood rejection manifests in many ways.  Some people feel like they need to prove themselves to each person they meet, while others push people away in a secret hope to get the negative reaction they are used to.  And like you said, most don’t even realize what they are doing.  Bravo for seeing the pattern!  Now it is time to transmute the energy, freeing yourself from it.

When you are ready to see how today’s behavior comes from yesterday’s pain, here is a ritual exercise that opens the heart chakra so you can look deep inside, find the psychological pain and release it.

Ritual preparation:

  • Mirror where you can see yourself from the waist up
  • Red, blue and yellow or green dry-erase markers
  • Eraser or piece of kitchen paper

Stand before the mirror:
With the blue marker draw a rectangle over the reflection of your right shoulder
With the red marker draw a pentagram over the reflection of your left shoulder
With the yellow or green marker draw a hexagram over the reflection of your heart

Set your sacred space and call in your Higher Self and guides.  Start with you back up against the mirror.  Take a moment and bring to the surface the rejection from the past.  Feel it within you, visualizing the events that caused it or the people involved.  Take as much time as you need to capture all the emotions into your physical vessel.

When you are ready, push the rejection to the back of your body and transfer it to your reflection behind you.  Take a step forward with your right foot first and turn around to come face-to-face with your reflection.  Stare straight into your eyes, looking at the rejection across from you, knowing that it is now captured in the mirror and away from your physical body.  As you stare ahead, slowly begin to move your shoulders in little circles -these should be delicate, slow motion that are almost imperceptible.  Do not look at your shoulders as you do this, lock your vision to your eyes, exploring every aspect of how you “see” the world.

Continue this subtle movement as you awaken the healing connection of your arms and heart.  Shed your protective layers and stand in your full vulnerability, accepting the source of the original hurt.  Resist the urge to bring this rejection back inside yourself, it is in the mirror and away from your physical self.  As the compassion wells within you, when you feel you have accepted and forgiven the past, erase the blue rectangle.

Bring your vision back to your eyes and resume the subtle arm movement.  Summon purification energy.  Feel yourself covering your entire reflection with light energy, spreading out to all the limbs of your body.  Thank the rejection for its service and the lessons you have learned, then ask it to leave once and for all.  When it is gone, erase the red pentagram.

Still staring into your eyes and moving your shoulders, it is time to take the final step and heal.  Call upon your chosen healing energy, which can be Reiki or Archangel Rafael or just pure light, and ask for all of your etheric body to be cleansed and sealed.  Let the healing wash over you until the scabs are transmuted into radiant light energy.  When you are sealed, erase the green or yellow hexagram.

Return one final time to look straight into your eyes and channel pure, love energy from your body into the reflection.  This is you, the healed you, the you that is free to seek out healthy, loving relationships.  With pure love, look at your entire body, channeling that love to every part of your life.  Wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug to complete the process.

You are now free and open to find the relationships and love you seek.

 

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Is there such a thing as a real friend?

January 4, 2011

From MaryAnn:

I used to think I had many friends, but lately I am not so sure those are real friends.  I don’t hear from them for months and then when something goes wrong in their lives, they call me and I bend over backwards to help, but when I call them with a problem or just to say hi, they either don’t respond or are too busy to talk.  Do real friends really exists and how do I get some of them?

 

Inspirations from Binah:

The definition of “real” in friendship is as fluid as a running stream.  Each person will have their definition, one just as valid as the other.  What you seek is a balanced friendship where your definitions match, and that will require you to know what is important to you and act accordingly.

Before releasing any of your existing relationships, you should make a list of what friendship looks like to you.  Spend an evening alone watching movies that represent friendship.  You can watch just your favorite parts or the whole film, what is most important is to write down all the behavior and feelings you want in your own friendships.

Take this list and over at least three days expand on it based on your interactions with friends.  Did you leave anything out?  Are there things that are more important than others?  Remember that you can only control your own behavior, therefore focus your energy on how you want to act and feel in the relationship.

On the following Tuesday, set aside some time for deep meditation.  Prepare your sacred space, call in your Higher Self and create a red sphere of light around you.  Have your list before you and a clean page where you can write more.  Within the red sphere, ask yourself what blocks or attachments are holding you back from creating the types of friendships you want.  Explore why you keep attracting unbalanced relationships – what do you need to learn or release in order to attract healthy, balanced friendships?  Record all that you receive.

With this information in hand, you can work on what you need in order to heal these patterns.  This may take time and require external help, for there may be several layers to work through.  For each item on the list, when you are ready to release it, on a Thursday sit in your sacred space with your Higher Self and feel a blue cube around you.  Breath in the blue radiant light, filling you as if you were a crystal vessel.  Shine this light out from within you in every direction, extending beyond the walls of the cube in shades of blue and green.  Thank the pattern for its service and feel it transmute into pure energy that fuels your healing.

Repeat this process as often as necessary in order to remove obstacles and patterns that keep you from finding “real” friendship.  With each transformation, consciously ask to only attract relationships that are healthy for you.  Let slip the friendships that no longer serve and nurture the new ones that blossom.  Soon you will have a full garden!

 

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How can I keep my heart from not being broken again?

December 21, 2010

From Carmen:

I have found love twice, I believe.  One died suddenly 3 years ago.  For the past two years, I have had another relationship, but a few days ago something changed and he turned around and said to me “I seem to imagine a different relationship”!

We were not in contact for a while and a year ago we agreed to go back into some type of relationship.  For sure I know he likes me for a long time, but he is married.  Last week, he had breakfast with me for my birthday… After a few days, I sent him a message saying I really wanted to see him again soon and he turned around and said I think too much.  I feel like a fool.

At this stage, I just need someone to spend a little time with me.  How can I keep my heart from not being broken again and again.  Is something wrong with me?

Inspirations from Binah:

Relationships require give and take, an equitable flow of energy between people.  You already know that this man is not interested in a true relationship, so it is better for you to walk away now.

You began your final paragraph by saying that you only want someone to spend a little time with you, but then go on to say how you fear having your heart broken.  Those two sentences contradict each other, for if all you really want is a companion, you would not invest your heart and therefore, there would be nothing to break.  Before stepping into another relationship, it is time to step back to discover what you truly want.

There are times when words are not the best way to express, so use pictures instead.  Sit down with a few magazines, a pair of scissors, a poster board and some glue.  Go through all the magazines and cut out pictures that represent what you want in a relationship.  Release your thoughts and react to each picture emotionally, cutting things out without thinking about them.  The pictures should represent all areas of a relationship, including activities, how you feel when you are together, what your future will be like and so forth.  Have fun with this, cutting out everything that makes you smile.

When you are done, arrange the pictures on the poster board and glue them into place, creating a collage.  Resist the urge to think about what each picture means, that will come later.  For now, let your creative side take over and put each piece in place, creating a great work of art.

With your collage complete, you can begin using this new tool for self-discovery.  Sit in your sacred space, ready to meditate on the symbol you have created.  Call in your Higher Self and guides, place the collage comfortably in front of you and stare at it as you enter into a meditative trance.  Let the images wash over you, covering your entire being with this energy.  When you are ready, close your eyes and journey into your ideal relationship.  Record all that you experience.

Over time, use this collage as a way to discover not only what you want in a relationship, but what you need to heal in yourself in order to attract it.  Ask your Higher Self to guide you as you see the cords and fears that keep pushing you into unhealthy relationships.  Each time you meditate with the collage, ask a different question, such as:

  • What is holding me back from attracting my ideal relationship?
  • How do I cut the cords and heal?
  • When my partner looks at me, who do I want he/she to see?
  • How do I become the person I want to be in this relationship?

The collage is a visual representation of what you truly want.  Meditating on it, will take you deep into that energy so that you can find the answers your waking mind seeks.  This process may take time, so be strong and realize that at the end of the path, you will find a stronger and healthier you, one ready to share a life, not lose yourself into another’s.

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What can I do to bring him closer?

October 26, 2010

From Jackie:

A month ago I met an incredible man. He is sweet, funny and very cute. We have this incredible connection, but I can’t figure out what to do next. We’ve talked on the phone a few times, but I feel like I’m calling him twice as much as he calls me. Is there anything I can do to bring him closer to me?


Inspirations from Binah:

In our relationships, it is easy to ask ourselves what we can do to bring the object of our desire closer, but when we do that, we are asking the wrong question. We should be looking inward and asking, “Am I the best ‘ME’ I can be?” And if so, “Am I projecting that out into the world?”

Instead of looking to change yourself for another person, evaluate whether you have become the person you truly want to be. If you are, and this “incredible man” is not responding, then he has his own internal work to do in order to accept the empowered being standing before him… so step back and walk on by.

If you have not yet become that confident, fulfilled person you wish to be, then now is time to work on that instead of allowing your image to be created in this man’s eyes. Pick up your Spiritual Toolbox that’s been gathering dust in the corner, and get to work. Remember, the more you radiate health and happiness, the more people will be attracted to your energy.

If you doubt my words, test it out using mirroring, which Relationship Counselor Collette Kenney calls “The Key” to relationship success:

 

In the words of Russ Von Hoelscher:

Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.


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