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An Energy Boost Brings you MORE

June 8, 2011

As a writer, I am constantly looking for the perfect words to express my emotions, but sometimes… they just don’t exist. The amount of beauty I have seen in the last two weeks fuels my faith that we *are* changing the world — one step at a time. I won’t deny that we are still on the uphill side of the battleground, but we are fighting hard and making a difference. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for constantly pushing yourself to be better than you were the day before! It reminds me of my favorite quote:

Our lives are the books people read.

By the way we live and the words we speak, we cannot stop setting an example.

~Anonymous

In May, Eternal Light Energy announced an international search for artwork and poetry for my upcoming book, Your Spiritual Toolbox, Guide to Practical Spirituality. Almost daily, new art and poetry came in. Each piece expressed the artist’s passion. Your Spiritual Toolbox has been a co-creation since the very beginning. Each tool was inspired by a question submitted to Inspirations from Binah, and now every poem and illustration comes directly from your creative mind. It has been an incredibly inspiring experience to read through Your Spiritual Toolbox and match spiritual tool to work of art.

Thanks to you, the manuscript is complete and is being submitted to various publishers. Please send abundant manifestation energy so that the perfect publisher sees the importance of presenting this collaborative and inspirational work to the world!


Writing Notes with Grammy

Writing Notes with Grammy, on Flickr

With the book complete, I am moving into a new level of teaching and writing. Monthly study group classes in Sacred Geometry and Kabbalah constantly have me searching for new lessons. I have been studying architecture, physiology and history to gain a greater understanding of how to best create spiritual tools to flow directed energy. Between this new-found energy and my recent trip to Damanhur, I find my sleep patterns altered to include more work in dream time in less hours. ~~ Energy Explosion! ~~

One of the marvelous consequences of this energy boost has been more sharing through Inspirations from Binah and the Practical Spirituality Fanpage on topics like:

  • Looking for love filled relationships
  • Learn how to better accept uncertainty
  • How to live an abundant life
  • Soul searching and self-love
  • Releasing in order to grow

 

Every day is an opportunity to learn something new. Share your experiences and become part of the Practical Spirituality community!

If you are looking for advice on a specific question, browse Inspirations from Binah or submit your own question. All questions are encouraged, for when you are in the thick of things, there is no such thing as a small problem.

If you would like to deepen your knowledge in a specific area, visit Eternal Light Energy and explore the Workshops and Study Groups.

If you are not sure what you are looking for and would like to have a guided, spiritual consultation, yvette is available for frank Spiritual Discussions.

 

Time for me to get back to writing, I have an article due for Presence, the online magazine by Whispers of Spirit. If you have any suggestions on the topics you would like to read about or a question for Inspirations from Binah, send me your ideas!

Let the pen, or keyboard, be your sword!

-yvette Soler

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How can my partner and I communicate better?

May 13, 2011

Marty writes:

There are certain issues my partner and I just do not see eye to eye on and I think it has to do with not communicating effectively. We are so alike in our thinking, but our communication is not always the best. Any tips?


Inspirations from Binah replies:

Communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship. Whether with friends, family or loved ones, it is important to feel like you can talk freely about your feelings, instead of hiding behind doubt and fear. While you and your partner may be very alike, until you learn how to share through honest dialogue, you will constantly feel like there is something “missing” in the relationship.

Speaking your mind is often easier said than done, and sometimes for very good reason. While we want to be honest, there is no doubt that there are some topics you just don’t discuss in mixed company. In my family, politics is completely off limits. After years of arguing our positions, we have learned that this broad subject only leads to bad feelings and hours of angrily talking in circles. But what we have learned by working through our communication issues is that while political talk is out, specific events can be discussed if they come from a place of curiosity and desire to understand the other’s point of view. We know that we are different, therefore we don’t kid ourselves by thinking we can change the other person, but talking about something concrete gives us an opportunity to hear another person’s thoughts and ask probing questions with respect, not anger. We often act like scientists attempting experiments we know will fail in order to learn what caused the results to be different from what we wanted.

When you say that you and your partner don’t see eye to eye, is it the communication style or subject matter? Style can be modified as long as both parties are willing to give a little. If you think fast and your partner requires more time, you can try a method such as email or chat which gives each person an opportunity to write a response at their own pace. It may seem informal, but if each of you process at a different speed, then text will even out the playing field. It will also give someone that is hot-headed an opportunity to cool down before saying something hurtful. In other words, think outside the box and use all the communication tools at your disposal. Contrary to popular thought, face-to-face is not always the best way to talk.

If you want communication to flow, watch your language for words that can come off as judgmental, angry or snippy. Focus on compassion and love, even if you don’t like what you are hearing. This will encourage honesty and openness.

One way to get to the heart of your communication issues and explore new solutions is with the use of twin crystals. When two crystals share a common side, such as two pieces/points that were originally side-by-side in a cluster, these are called twins. Just like biological twins, the two crystals will have shared DNA, creating an unbreakable bond between them that facilitates the transfer of energy.

chinese quartz crystal cluster

chinese quartz crystal cluster by kafka4prez

Twin Crystal

Communication

For this work, you will need a pair of twin, clear quartz crystals. Clear quartz acts as an amplifier, ensuring that you amplify a person’s thoughts and feelings without adding any properties from the crystal. The crystals should be purified and have an equal, balanced energy.

Sit in front of the person you wish to communicate with. Create a united sacred space, calling upon any guides you wish to help you through this process. It is highly recommended that the Higher Selves of each person be invoked and that there is an explicit ask to help facilitate the conversation.

When you are ready, the first person that wishes to ask a question holds one crystal in his/her left hand while the other person holds the twin in his/her right hand. The left hand is the receiving side, for this is the person that is seeking an answer. The right hand is the giving side, the person supplying the answer. Coming from a place of curiosity and compassion, ask the first question. Choose your words carefully, removing any assumptions or judgment. Allow time to receive an answer through the crystal, without the giver speaking. The receiver should express freely, channeling the words as they come.

When you have received all that has been given, begin a dialog. Communicate freely, yet with respect. Remember, you are trying to understand your partner, not fight for change. This is an opportunity to speak and be heard. If you need clarification and can’t find it in the discussion, ask another question through the crystal. Ask as many questions as necessary to help facilitate a dialog, switching who asks as needed.

As you work through this process, take note of the things that flow well in the conversation and points that were heated. Make adjustments accordingly to maintain a balanced energy flow. If tensions rise, take a deep breath and feel a blue, calming energy wash over the space between you.

Use twin crystals to talk not only about specific subjects , but also about your individual communication styles so you can learn how to improve your relationship. Crystals break through the barriers created by our defense mechanisms, allowing vulnerable expression and compassionate healing.

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Longing for lost love/first love

May 5, 2011

Mun asks:

I am 42 and married and with 2 children. I have been having some marital issues stemming from a lack of intimacy and lack of financial support from my husband for the past few years, but I kept all these issues/problems to myself until last October when I burst out. At the same time, due to not wanting to face reality and wanting to escape from it all, I started thinking and looking up online a lost love from 21 years ago, my very first love.

There was so much love and passion with my first BF that it all came back when I saw his name online as I materialized his existence (I made believe he was dead for all these years). I know this is silly, but I have not stopped thinking about my first BF since last August and the vivid memories I have of him are from the past and I wonder how he is doing today and want to see him so badly, but I must control myself because I don’t want to do something stupid. I’m so glad he is out of state and reachable only by plane, but thoughts have come to mind to pick up the phone and catch up with him and arrange for a face to face meeting. I really miss him and feel so guilty as I am now married, but in a relationship where the love that I once felt for my spouse if slowly fading away.

I know this is not healthy and need some advice. My spouse is aware of our issues and is working on putting his act together, but I am very confused with what is going on with my feeling and emotions. Do I call my ex to put some closure to a relationship from 21 years ago or just let it go and live life as usual? I am afraid that not knowing about my ex is more of a torture now that he is back in my mind than to pretend that he does not exist. It took me about 8 years to move on and forget him when I was in my 20′s, but it only took minutes to bring him back to my mind and memory and I feel that I cannot easily remove him from my psych if I don’t put a closure to the relationship that I once had with him unless I contact him. I appreciate the advice you can provide… thanks!


Inspirations from Binah replies:

A friend recently said to me that with social networks, you can never really escape your past.  Unless you change your name or never go online, gone are the days when you graduate from high school and leave behind your small town.  If you are online, anyone can find you… and with a little perseverance, you can find anyone.  I tend to think this is a good thing because it makes us face the past instead of running away from it.  I mean, how can you really move forward in life if you have a festering wound you keep ignoring?

Like it or not, your feelings for your first boyfriend exists.  Judging or labeling them as unhealthy is only going to add confusion, so release those thoughts.  As human beings, we have a tendency to romanticize the past.  While there is nothing wrong with this, it is important to recognize that our memories are not always accurate.  Basic defense mechanisms minimize pain and maximize beauty, this is why we often find ourselves repeating hurtful patterns — we forget the suffering until we are back in it.

Regardless of what “may” be, until you work through your own issues, there is no point in contacting your first BF.  Seeing him again will not make the problems in your marriage disappear.  Now is the time to look honestly at yourself to find the thought patterns and behaviors that have contributed to the marital discord.  Once these have been healed, you can look at the situation with fresh eyes and determine whether you leave your marriage to pursue the past or close that door forever.

Sit in the present moment and acknowledge that you and your first BF shared something special.  Give yourself permission to reconnect to those feelings of young love and wonder without attaching to the person.  Your goal is to bring this energy back into your life, exploring all the avenues that can take you there.

White tailed fawn close

White tailed fawn close

Your Spirit Animal is Born

Spring is upon us in the northern hemisphere, so it is appropriate to call upon the animal kingdom to help you.  In the woods, a fawn has been born to help guide your way.  This spirit animal is here to gently teach you.  A deer never pushes for change, rather it nudges you in the direction of acceptance, for the balance of true power lays in love and compassion.

This spring, consciously connect to your fawn in search of learning and healing.  You can place a figurine next to your bed to guide you in dream time, meditate on a picture or go into nature and commune with one in the physical.  Every time you connect, allow the  fawn’s energy to melt the barriers that separate you from seeing your patterns.  Let your spirit animal shower you with unconditional love as you work through your fears and pain.

When a deer totem enters your world, a new innocence and freshness in about to be awakened. New adventures are just around the corner and there will be an opportunity to express the gentle love that will open new doors for you.  -Ina Woolcott


When Summer begins, your fawn will have reached a new level of maturity, and with its growth you will have found the answers you seek.  In sacred ceremony, thank the fawn for all you have been taught and allow it to return to nature.  Your deer will always be with you in spirit, providing loving support and gentle guidance.  You will learn how to listen to your heart and recognize that sometimes the higher good requires a sacrifice.  Only when you are free of expectations can you find the alternative path that will lead you to your goal.



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Spring Flings – Does it matter where they take us?

May 2, 2011
The world through my eyes

The world through my eyes

A simple smile… Sparkling eyes… A short giggle… Spring is in the air.  All around me I am being shown the renewal birthed by this marvelous energy.  Mercury is happily on its direct path creating opportunities for subtle communications through all the senses.

I *love* this time of year, and not just because my birthday is right around the corner. ;)

I love listening to my friends tell me stories of new romances.  Not all these romances are with people; sometimes the love affair with the perfect pair of jeans or the beautiful ring found at a local thrift store can be just as exciting as flesh and blood.  It is all about contact and sharing – that is what I live for.  There is so much promise at the beginning.  Everything is new and wonderful and full of possibilities.

To truly enjoy all there is to experience, you have to embrace the uncertainty.  During winter, we traveled through our shadows shining light on the cobwebs.  Some dusting here, some heavy cleaning there… All with the goal of creating a special place for the radiant spring light we knew would be coming.

If you did your internal work these last few months, the world seems open to everything.  You are connected to Source, believe in yourself and trust you are being guided with each step.  It takes faith to release the fear and flow with what you are feeling, especially when you know it may end.  Then again, part of that faith is trusting that the journey is more important than the destination.  Instead of asking yourself a million questions about what *exactly* is happening, why not thrust your head out the window and take in the sights and smells, letting the wind carry away your concerns?

Intellectually, I am well aware that all this may disappear.  The jeans start to fade, the ring gets lost, the person you were cuddling with stops calling, but that is part of the cycle of life.  Just because you may not have something in the future does not mean you should pass it up now.  Life is meant to be experienced, so when you have an opportunity: go for it.  Besides, you never know what may happen.  I still have jeans from when I was in high school, and they look better on me now than they did then.

When I was a young, ugly ducking in junior high, I came across a phrase that struck me:
If you see something you want and you go for it, you may not get it, but if you see something you want and you don’t go for it, then you definitely don’t get it. It seems like the worse that can happen either way is that you don’t get it, so what do you have to lose?

I have lived by that credo all my life.  It has taken me to great heights and into deep pits, but there are no regrets.  Fueled by the warm spring air, I continue embracing every opportunity, trusting Source will show me the way.

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I want to release my longing for an unhealthy love, suggestions?

February 11, 2011

From Nathaniel:

I just recently fell out of love with someone.  This person was someone who came into my life and immediately captured my heart.  She was so wild and so unlike myself in so many ways that I was immediately in love.  So this went on for a while on and off, until I went home to Florida.  While I was gone for only a few days she cheated on me, and in the next few days, with the help of her roommate especially, what we had totally fell apart.  I was utterly devastated as I had unknowingly invested quite a lot into her, and having all that gone at once was very hard to deal with.  Then all my friends started telling me how bad she was for me, which I understand and ultimately know is true.  Then about a week and a half ago she called me, apologizing for everything, and saying that she still loved me.  Then three days later she talks on her Facebook all about her new crush, so I immediately deleted her from my friends list.  I understand that she wasn’t good for me, and that she in so many ways put me in a very bad position, however everyday my idle thoughts turn to thinking about her.  I know even if we did get together again, at this point it wouldn’t be right, but I know that I still have a longing to be with her.  I want to find a way to be rid of these feelings, or at least find a way for me to move on, and develop new love once again.  Do you have any suggestions?

 

Inspirations from Binah:

A love shared by two people is something that can never be fully expunged, nor should it be.  There were some wonderful moments that when brought to mind will always fill you with the loving emotions of the experiences shared.  What you seek is not to forget her all together, but to reach a point where she is memory that lives in the past.  We underestimate the value and happiness of reminiscing.  The past is something we should treasure and learn from without trying to recreate it in the present.

With that goal in mind, are your thoughts of her rooted in an emotional cord that must be cut or a clean, yet still open, wound that is slowly healing?  From your words, you recognize that this is not the relationship for you and have accepted that you and she must go your separate ways.  You are walking the path of the Death card, so it is appropriate that to honor this parting you hold a formal ceremony.

If you feel that there is something that is pulling you back to her, cut the emotional cords using any of the methods shared in previous Inspirations from Binah answers titled:

With the cords cut, call upon the energy of the Phoenix and the purification power of its flaming death to release the last of your longing and cauterize the wound.

Phoenix Rebirth Ceremony

In a flame-proof location, create a small nest made out of twigs or small branches.  In the center, place some myrrh resin or incense.  Place over the myrrh something that reminds you of her; this can be an object, picture or even a piece of paper with her name on it.

Set your sacred space and call in your Higher Self and guardians.  Invoke the Phoenix and prepare for the transmutation through death.  When you are ready, set the nest and all the objects within it, on fire .  As the Phoenix burns, channel all your longing into the flame and ask for Archangel Rafael, the divine physician, to provide healing energy to soothe your heartache.

Allow the fire to completely burn out.  If possible, leave the ashes where they are, allowing the energy to regenerate and complete the healing process.  If they must be moved, put them in a box or someplace where thy will not be disturbed.  In three days, take the ashes and scatter them into nature, symbolizing the rebirth of the Phoenix.  Healthy and happy, the Phoenix circles the sky ready to begin again, just as you are now ready to continue your journey with an open heart.

Though it will take time for your lingering thoughts to find a new place to rest, when you feel especially vulnerable, call upon the Phoenix and allow it to burn away your longing and inspire your next steps.

 

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