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I want to release my longing for an unhealthy love, suggestions?

February 11, 2011

From Nathaniel:

I just recently fell out of love with someone.  This person was someone who came into my life and immediately captured my heart.  She was so wild and so unlike myself in so many ways that I was immediately in love.  So this went on for a while on and off, until I went home to Florida.  While I was gone for only a few days she cheated on me, and in the next few days, with the help of her roommate especially, what we had totally fell apart.  I was utterly devastated as I had unknowingly invested quite a lot into her, and having all that gone at once was very hard to deal with.  Then all my friends started telling me how bad she was for me, which I understand and ultimately know is true.  Then about a week and a half ago she called me, apologizing for everything, and saying that she still loved me.  Then three days later she talks on her Facebook all about her new crush, so I immediately deleted her from my friends list.  I understand that she wasn’t good for me, and that she in so many ways put me in a very bad position, however everyday my idle thoughts turn to thinking about her.  I know even if we did get together again, at this point it wouldn’t be right, but I know that I still have a longing to be with her.  I want to find a way to be rid of these feelings, or at least find a way for me to move on, and develop new love once again.  Do you have any suggestions?

 

Inspirations from Binah:

A love shared by two people is something that can never be fully expunged, nor should it be.  There were some wonderful moments that when brought to mind will always fill you with the loving emotions of the experiences shared.  What you seek is not to forget her all together, but to reach a point where she is memory that lives in the past.  We underestimate the value and happiness of reminiscing.  The past is something we should treasure and learn from without trying to recreate it in the present.

With that goal in mind, are your thoughts of her rooted in an emotional cord that must be cut or a clean, yet still open, wound that is slowly healing?  From your words, you recognize that this is not the relationship for you and have accepted that you and she must go your separate ways.  You are walking the path of the Death card, so it is appropriate that to honor this parting you hold a formal ceremony.

If you feel that there is something that is pulling you back to her, cut the emotional cords using any of the methods shared in previous Inspirations from Binah answers titled:

With the cords cut, call upon the energy of the Phoenix and the purification power of its flaming death to release the last of your longing and cauterize the wound.

Phoenix Rebirth Ceremony

In a flame-proof location, create a small nest made out of twigs or small branches.  In the center, place some myrrh resin or incense.  Place over the myrrh something that reminds you of her; this can be an object, picture or even a piece of paper with her name on it.

Set your sacred space and call in your Higher Self and guardians.  Invoke the Phoenix and prepare for the transmutation through death.  When you are ready, set the nest and all the objects within it, on fire .  As the Phoenix burns, channel all your longing into the flame and ask for Archangel Rafael, the divine physician, to provide healing energy to soothe your heartache.

Allow the fire to completely burn out.  If possible, leave the ashes where they are, allowing the energy to regenerate and complete the healing process.  If they must be moved, put them in a box or someplace where thy will not be disturbed.  In three days, take the ashes and scatter them into nature, symbolizing the rebirth of the Phoenix.  Healthy and happy, the Phoenix circles the sky ready to begin again, just as you are now ready to continue your journey with an open heart.

Though it will take time for your lingering thoughts to find a new place to rest, when you feel especially vulnerable, call upon the Phoenix and allow it to burn away your longing and inspire your next steps.

 

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How can I keep my heart from not being broken again?

December 21, 2010

From Carmen:

I have found love twice, I believe.  One died suddenly 3 years ago.  For the past two years, I have had another relationship, but a few days ago something changed and he turned around and said to me “I seem to imagine a different relationship”!

We were not in contact for a while and a year ago we agreed to go back into some type of relationship.  For sure I know he likes me for a long time, but he is married.  Last week, he had breakfast with me for my birthday… After a few days, I sent him a message saying I really wanted to see him again soon and he turned around and said I think too much.  I feel like a fool.

At this stage, I just need someone to spend a little time with me.  How can I keep my heart from not being broken again and again.  Is something wrong with me?

Inspirations from Binah:

Relationships require give and take, an equitable flow of energy between people.  You already know that this man is not interested in a true relationship, so it is better for you to walk away now.

You began your final paragraph by saying that you only want someone to spend a little time with you, but then go on to say how you fear having your heart broken.  Those two sentences contradict each other, for if all you really want is a companion, you would not invest your heart and therefore, there would be nothing to break.  Before stepping into another relationship, it is time to step back to discover what you truly want.

There are times when words are not the best way to express, so use pictures instead.  Sit down with a few magazines, a pair of scissors, a poster board and some glue.  Go through all the magazines and cut out pictures that represent what you want in a relationship.  Release your thoughts and react to each picture emotionally, cutting things out without thinking about them.  The pictures should represent all areas of a relationship, including activities, how you feel when you are together, what your future will be like and so forth.  Have fun with this, cutting out everything that makes you smile.

When you are done, arrange the pictures on the poster board and glue them into place, creating a collage.  Resist the urge to think about what each picture means, that will come later.  For now, let your creative side take over and put each piece in place, creating a great work of art.

With your collage complete, you can begin using this new tool for self-discovery.  Sit in your sacred space, ready to meditate on the symbol you have created.  Call in your Higher Self and guides, place the collage comfortably in front of you and stare at it as you enter into a meditative trance.  Let the images wash over you, covering your entire being with this energy.  When you are ready, close your eyes and journey into your ideal relationship.  Record all that you experience.

Over time, use this collage as a way to discover not only what you want in a relationship, but what you need to heal in yourself in order to attract it.  Ask your Higher Self to guide you as you see the cords and fears that keep pushing you into unhealthy relationships.  Each time you meditate with the collage, ask a different question, such as:

  • What is holding me back from attracting my ideal relationship?
  • How do I cut the cords and heal?
  • When my partner looks at me, who do I want he/she to see?
  • How do I become the person I want to be in this relationship?

The collage is a visual representation of what you truly want.  Meditating on it, will take you deep into that energy so that you can find the answers your waking mind seeks.  This process may take time, so be strong and realize that at the end of the path, you will find a stronger and healthier you, one ready to share a life, not lose yourself into another’s.

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I am in love, I feel trapped, I need to move on…

November 18, 2010

From Dwayne:

I have a problem and I am seeking some advise. I’m in love with this woman and six months ago I moved way up north to work for the government. She keeps telling me we will be together soon but all she does is drink and party all the time. She doesn’t work and hasn’t worked for many years. She expects me to pay her bills and send her money everyday. We are not married nor do we have children together. I’m confused, I feel trapped, and really ultimately I want to let her go with unconditional love and move on with my life. Any advise in this matter would be soo appreciated and grateful for.


Inspirations from Binah:

Cutting the cords from a relationship is often very difficult. Through the years, we create bonds that are mixed with emotion, expectations and hope. It is good that you recognize the need to move on, for there is no way you are going to change her behavior. Now is the time to focus on your personal healing and growth.

Begin by consciously choosing to cut the etheric bonds. Create a sacred space and call upon your Higher Self to guide you. Use Jasmin or Nag Champa incense to invoke love energy. Your goal is not to hurt her, but to gently step away from the relationship. Place the incense before you and using the index and middle finger of your right hand, cut the cords that connect you. Take it slow, scanning for any energetic attachments. When you feel one, swipe your fingers across them in a decisive cutting motion. Once all the cords are severed, smudge yourself with the incense to cleanse and heal the cuts. Ask your Higher Self and guardian angels to help you through this healing process, transforming the pain into unconditional love from the purest source.

Even after the attachments are severed, there are going to be moments of longing. The relationship took time to grow, and it will take time to transform into a beautiful memory. Use Flower Essences to help you through this time of transition. Make a tincture using a combination of: Beech – Centaury – Chestnut Bud – Heather – Pine – Star of Bethlehem

To make the tincture, fill a 30ml application bottle with fresh water. Add between two to four drops of each essence. Take 4 or so drops on the tongue several times a day (minimum of four) until you have consumed the bottle. You can repeat the process a second time if you need more to get you through it, changing the combination of essences used if you feel called to do so.

In time, your memories of the relationship will bring a feeling of joy and the understanding that what once was, can no longer be. In is in that moment, that you will spread your wings and once again take flight, fully open to the endless possibilities before you.


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Can faith expunge the desire?

September 3, 2010

Last night, I asked the Universe for a sign.  I thought I was being very deliberate in my words, stating exactly what I need to see.  This morning an answer arrived, but it leaves me more perplexed.  The confusion does not arise from my mind, it comes from my heart.  My mind is set.  It sees the landscape and understands the road ahead, thought it is not attached to the destination, but the heart is not so easily swayed.  It holds tight to its desires.

So where is my faith?  Faith is a strong belief in a power beyond your own.  Faith says that no matter what happens, I believe it is what is best.  You see, I have faith, but the heart is trying to undermine my resolve.  Cords to expectations have been cut, the mind has released hope, but the heart still desires.  It desires something that cannot be right now.  I have faith that patiently continuing on this path will lead to happiness, though I do not know what that happiness looks like, but if faith tells me this is the right path, then why does desire create so much doubt?

And there lies my confusion.  Together, the mind and heart work to balance the emotions.  The thing is, which one is right?  Is my heart is telling me that what I desire is what I should go after, or should I trust my mind which says that right now what I desire is not for me?  Faith attempts to create a layer of peace, but the tug-o-war between the heart and mind has the emotions running overtime.  One minute, the mind’s logic calms the waters and continues forward movement, and the next the heart’s desires take over causing rough seas that suspend all travel.

The questions I ask myself are:

“How do you tell if the desire is a warning flag vs. a cord that must be cut?”

and

“If there is faith that the path is right, is there a way to expunge the desire?”

I gather up my tools, set my sacred space and call in my Higher Self:

  • Gardenia incense burns, sending my questions to the Universe and asking for revelation of new knowledge.
  • Snowflake Obsidian soothes so that I may clearly see cords to patterns of behavior that may need to be cut.
  • Unikite provides balance between emotions and spirituality, gently releasing conditions that inhibit spiritual and psychological growth.
  • Carnelian grounds me into the present reality and imparts an acceptance of the cycle of life.
  • Lapis Lazuli releases stress, brings deep peace and harmonizes physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels.
  • Stone from Montserrat to ground and integrate all I receive.

Into meditation I go, open to all that will be revealed.  May the answers dispel the doubt and reinforce my faith…

· Stone from Montserrat to ground and integrate all I receive.

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How do I find and make good friends?

August 30, 2010

From Emily:

I feel that I am a very nice, caring person but I am having trouble finding friends. I also am a very shy person and have never really had a serious relationship with the opposite sex. I tried to find friends and recently for the past 2 plus years have been online either placing ads or responding to ads looking for friends. There were people either at school or work that I wanted to have as friends but nothing panned out. I don’t know if I will ever find any people to hang out with me. i see people that aren’t very nice but they have lots of friends.


Inspirations from Binah:

There are many factors that must be taken into account in order to find the true heart of the why you are having problems forming relationships. One reason may lie in your definition of the roles “friend” and “lover”. Depending on what you consider social norms, you may have a specific idea on how a friend or lover should act. And while you think you are open to all experiences, you find yourself disappointed because people don’t behave the way you “expect” them to.

Another common problem is that because of an unrecognized fear or belief, you are not attracting people you can have healthy relationships with. While you may be actively trying to find people, through ads and common interests, an unconscious force may be pushing them away. Maybe you were hurt by a friend once or deep down you are afraid of having anyone see your true self or you fear getting wrapped up into negative activities due to peer pressure, like a close relation once did.

Tied to the energetical layers of our physical body are karmic cords that can bind. These emotional cords are created in many ways, and once they are in place, will remain there until you consciously release them. Imagine giant ropes covering your body and tying you to a specific idea or thought pattern. Try as you might, each step you take away from the source just makes the ropes constrict more tightly. Luckily, once identified, you can hack away at these cords until you are left energetically free to attract what you want most.

If you feel like you are having problems finding people to share your life with, you must first discover, what is preventing you from attracting lasting relationships. Take this question into meditation with your Higher Self. There may be more than one cord, so think of this as an iterative process, like peeling the layers of an onion. Identify one thing that is radiating “don’t be close to me” energy, such as a fear of being rejected, a strict protocol of behavior amongst friends or a personal barrier against letting people see your vulnerabilities. Whatever the source of the first cord, be honest in your assessment, for only when you accept its existence can you begin its release.

Now that you have identified the first cord, it is time to choose a technique for cutting it. There are many wonderful methods that you can do yourself. If you find the cord too strong for you to cut on your own, seek out an expert that can help you.

A simple method for cutting the cord is a combination of personal acceptance and energetical cutting. Spend some time working on the root cause until you feel like you emotionally understand the tie. You can use any number of wonderful tools, such as psychology, NLP, Reiki, etc. For the final cut, sit in a sacred circle, invoke your guardians and light some clearing incense such as sage, Nag Champa or Dragon’s Blood, before you.

Picture the source of the cord beyond the incense. Keep it outside of your body – after all the work you’ve done releasing it, you want to ensure it does not re-attach. Feel the energy between you and the source and using the index and middle fingers of your right hand cut from top to bottom all the cords you feel. Do this for as long as necessary until you sense you are free. As you cut, ask your guardians to guide your work and transmute the energy being released into something you can use to attract healthy relationships.

Once you are done, feel the new, positive energy created from the old cords. Accept this energy, thank your guardians and clear your circle. After a few days, go back into meditation and ask if there is another cord you need to release. Continue this process until everything is clear.

Cords are created in many different ways and situations so add this technique to your toolbox for future use… one day one of your new friends may ask you for some advice.


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Voyager Spirit – February 2010

February 26, 2010

Welcome to February’s Voyager Spirit!

With Valentine’s day having featured in the calendar this month we felt it fitting to look at the theme of Sacred Union with Another in its various forms of spiritual love. Writer, Divine Harmony – see below, gives us one take on this and other illuminating articles about love by Celia Fenn and Craig King can be viewed on our website www.voyagerspirit.com

That’s not all though, Creative Conscious Consumerism is highlighted by Helen Davis to inspire us all plus we have an engaging interview with Mark Bennett of the Aetherius Society on their world views and beliefs about life on other planets. More contributions by other talented writers can also be accessed on our website.

Thank you for your articles and emails, keep them coming in! We are blessed with contributors who write from the heart, as well as mind to lead us to further explore this voyage we are all on together.

Much Love and Blessings,

The Voyager Spirit team

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Interview with Mark Bennett of The Aetherius Society
by John Charleston

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We meet at the Inner Potential Centre, the educational arm of The Aetherius Society in Fulham, southwest London. Mark is a friendly and articulate host and we begin the interview by asking him to describe The Aetherius Society and how he became involved with it.

“The Aetherius Society in brief, is an organisation which teaches that there is life on other planets in the solar system on a higher level of frequency vibration. This life is not only intelligent but spiritually very … read more

A New Paradigm of Partnership
by Divine Harmony

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Inner and Outer Union Work

There is a new paradigm of partnership that is being birthed right now and there are many who are being called to step up and midwife it by bringing it into their conscious experience and living it by example. These are the way showers for others who feel called down the road to do this inner and outer Union work. And it truly is work- of the Soul/Spirit variety. For those who have been conditioned to believe that relationship is based on security, ownership and fusion- this kind of relationship will necessarily shatter the foundations upon which they have built much of their understanding of love and partnership. Yet there are many who have been feeling the pull to explore this, to understand this, and to experience this. This comes from an inner yearning and resonance that there is something else that is True that has not yet been fully …
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As within, So Without – Adventures In Conscious Consuming and Other Tales
by Helen Davis
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The week before my Amalfi Coast wedding I packed my suitcase. The flat was strewn with outfits for every conceivable eventuality and yet, still, I felt I had nothing to wear. This seemed ironic given that I’d spent the last two years searching for the holy grail of style: the capsule wardrobe. I was convinced clarity would banish confusion once I owned this small selection of interchangeable garments. So I spent the time I was meant to be writing a novel – yeah, right! – procrastinating by way of the nation’s ‘favourite pastime’ – shopping.

I’d heard ‘we wear 20% of our wardrobe 80% of the time’ …

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Inspirations From Binah
by yvette Soler

What Is My Soul’s Purpose?

Inspirations from Binah:

A: Our soul begins at birth; as we enter the physical, it is individuated from the group soul collective. It is the bridge between our Spiritual self, who we have always been and will always be, and the physical self, who we are now. As we travel through our journey in the physical, it is always there, providing the mechanism of consciousness that keeps us connected with our spiritual centre. The energy flows through our Crown chakra, keeping us plugged in to the world beyond by way of the Elements, Aura, Ether, Magnetism and Dimensions: 5 additional senses that are accessed through the soul/body connection.

As it is individuated from a group soul, your soul has a purpose of its own. Though they are interrelated, it is important to recognise that it will not be necessarily be the same as your purpose in…read more

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I think I need help, I’m stuck

January 28, 2010

From Katie:

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. This last year I have fought alot of heartache…and now am lost…I had to give up my dream job, because it was harmful, I met and felt deeply connected with an amazing man, but that slipped through my fingers as fast as sand, I still don’t understand why I feel like we were “meant to be”…and most now I’m unsure of how I fulfill my dreams or what my purpose is…it all seemed so connected…and I cannot seem to stop the hope and un-realistic dreamings that this fellow will return, and with that my dream job, and my dreams all again seem to be together..or that it is all tied together…I feel like I’m losing my mind…I know it won’t happen…fate has seen to that…but I am internally conflicted…how do I get unstuck and move forward, or stop the hope of what was and seem convinced will happen, …and find myself again….Thank you for your thoughts….


Inspirations from Binah:

Never give up dreaming, for it is our dreams that keep us moving forward, ever reaching toward our goals. Your dreams are telling you the direction of your life; they show you the world of possibilities before you. It is not your dreams that are creating conflict, it is the attachment to what was. Release your expectations so that you can move from the past, into the future.

Begin by creating a ritual to cut the hold you have on the physical incarnations of your heartache. Set your sacred space with incense of pine or cypress to call in the purification energy of Geburah. Stand in your circle of power and focus on releasing all the binds. Meditate on the Tower card of the Tarot, feeling the flash of lightening that cracks open the cords that are keeping your dreams confined.

The stormy red flashes burn the visible layers around love and job, bringing them back into their most divine essence. The shells turn to ash which fertilizes the soil so that in its place, your dreams can grow anew. This time, they grow without expectation or attachment. You release the old and focus on what you need in order to be emotionally, physically and financially happy. Success, abundance, growth… do not put names and faces to what comes, just flood your space with the energy. Use essential oils of cedar and nutmeg to continually balance the strength of Geburah necessary to stave off all attachments to the benevolence and indulgence of Chesed. From here, you proceed unencumbered, once again free to embrace your bliss.


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So many interesting things to read about..

December 6, 2009

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End of the year solutions

December 1, 2009

We have entered the final stretch of 2009.  December is a month filled with Holiday parties, friends and family.  For many of us, it is also a time of chaos and confusion.

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How do I discover my spiritual connection and find a soulmate?

June 1, 2009

From Sofia:

I’m not sure if my question really blurs into two…

My first issue is that I have thankfully been blessed with spiritual experiences, including OBEs and such where I have met my spirit guides but I have never been able to bring on these experiences, even though I’ve attempted different techniques in the past, from inducing OBEs, meditation, prayer etc. it doesn’t seem to work for me. And I have tried alot of techniques.

There have been times in my life where I have really needed to hear from my guides more than just in the everyday intuition based way but even if I just leave it up to them it doesn’t seem to work. Even if I totally let it go. After a while I begin to doubt and so, my question is this. How can I rediscover that spiritual connection that I find so hard to initiate?

Also, I admit I have lost a lot of faith in finding a soulmate as it were. I’m speaking romantically. I’ve tried getting advice during OBEs and such but either I can’t seem to find my guides (even if I call them) or can’t get out of them what I really want to know.

I guess after seven years of fruitless searching I’m kinda angry. I know its meant to happen when the time is right and trust me I’ve tried to be as open as possible but that has only led to nasty endings when I’ve sort of ‘tricked’ myself into thinking maybe this is who I want in my life when I know deep down that my heart isn’t in it. I also have heard so many times that you have to be happy with yourself and I am, but I’m human and I am designed to love and be loved romantically. So my question is, how can I find my soulmate/s? I mean literally as in the soul group type set up, and not just those who are friends and family in this life.


Inspirations from Binah:

Your spiritual connection is something that is with you always and while it may seem as if there are times when you are not connected, just the fact that you know it exists means you are. One question to ponder is whether you feel connected when you don’t “need” to hear from your guides? When you only turn to your spirituality in a crisis, you may have a hard timing hearing because you have not developed a symbiotic language.

To create that language, you must first hear the way your spirit guides currently communicate. That may sound cryptic, but it just means that you have to accept that the way your guides speak to you may not be the way you envisioned it. Intuition proves that you are connected and receiving messages. This could be the only method your guides have to communicate. Instead of trying to force them to contact you the way you want, take the method they currently use and expand from there.

Which senses does your intuition come through? Have you tried expanding it to another sense? For example, if you usually just know something, the next few times it happens close your eyes and focus on what you are hearing. Take the clairsentience and create maps to expand your clairaudience. If you usually see things and are clairvoyant, then create maps to how you are feeling. You can also study sacred geometry, gematria or any other “language” that allows you to decipher the messages you are receiving from spirit through the world around you. With each exercise, you expand your capacity for receiving messages and give your guides new ways to speak with you.

The blocks before you finding a romantic partner cross new lines. Though you may think that your guides are not providing you with answers, their silence is your answer. Just as you need to learn the language of your spirit guides, you must accept that a soulmate may look at first very different from what you visualized. Each of us has a circle of soulmates that are a part of our world. Accept each person that comes into your life without expectation and let the relationship develop organically. What may seem like friendship, may blossom into romantic love. We have no way of knowing why a person was sent into our lives so do not make a judgment. Release the anger and enjoy what you are getting… this may just give you what you want.


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