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Alisa asks:
I have two children with a man whom I love very much. He has spent the last 12 years in extreme turmoil. I have tried to part ways many times, but continue to get back with him because I love him as a person. However, he pulls me down very much. He is mentally ill and unstable and refuses evaluation or any alternative therapy. He is depressed and very passive about his life. Recently, I was admitted into the University and I am planning on moving to another state in a few months. He said he wants to come and support us there, but I need a new start and I know he really doesn’t want to go because he has no drive to find work. He has a very kind heart, but does nothing for himself but work in a liquor store. He is functioning at a very low vibration and doesn’t want to help himself. I have tried so hard to nurture his relationship with the children because they love him, but I am seeing how the depression is making us all feel low and down in the dumps. I need some wholesome advice on how I can work this out. I fear he should stay here and we should go alone.
Inspirations from Binah replies:
While your emotional center sets the direction toward love, which can sometimes feel like a random choice with no foundation, your mind provides the checks and balances needed to understand that love. Language limits our ability to comprehend all the different types of love that can be experienced, making it seem as if the feelings we feel for another person outside of our family can only be categorized as ‘romantic’ or ‘friendship’. The truth is there are many other levels, each one providing lessons and experiences necessary for your evolutionary journey.
After 12 years with this man, your mind understands all the pros and cons of staying with him. If he comes with you to your new city, you will continue to repeat the existing pattern, for you cannot expect another to change. If you can find acceptance, joy and growth in this pattern, then your answer is simple: he should go with you. But if you continue to feel that he is bringing down the vibration of the entire family, then you must realize that if you remain with him, you are not only holding back your personal growth, you are teaching your children that this is the best they can expect out of life.
That being said, there was a reason you were joined together in love, giving you an opportunity to reach a new level of knowledge through the journey you have walked together. Sometimes it takes Understanding in order to receive the full Wisdom of an experience and move on to the next. Shift your focus onto identifying and understanding the love you share today, releasing the need to believe that it must be the love of a partner and opening yourself to accepting that this love may be a vibration meant to bring your children into the world and provide you with strength and compassion you could only acquire through your union.
In your quiet Sanctuary, ask your Higher Self to take you on a spiritual journey through this relationship. Begin with where and how you met, asking your Higher Self to play the entire video of the last 12 years and pausing where a new lesson was learned. Take note of each time you learned something about yourself, each time you shed a layer of your ego or prejudices or weaknesses. Create this list, and when you are done, ask your Higher Self if there is still more to learn in order to find the balance between your emotions and your intellect. Your Higher Self can tell you if this story should continue, are you ready to accept the answer?
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Rakesh writes:
I just came out of a decade old relationship, reason being un-accepting parents.
What’s bothering me is that I haven’t broken down! I used to be the type who’d break down at the slightest thing! But, I haven’t shed a single tear, and it’s scaring me! I think it has been buried somewhere deep in, and this might be stuck as negative energy to affect me in the future.. I feel almost emotionless..
Is this normal? I want to just cry and get this out of my system, but I can’t! I don’t feel anything.. Or, is it even possible this is a good thing? Please tell me what you feel about this..
Inspirations from Binah replies:
A break up is a loss, no matter what the cause. We all go through an emotional response when this happens, grieving either for the person or aspects of the relationship. We become attached at many levels, and it is not always easy to predict which cords will cause pain when cut. While some people break down completely, others find themselves going through a more reserved process.
What is certain is that you will go through five to seven stages of grief. There is no telling how long each stage will last. I have found that there are people that seem to skip stages, but in reality they just go through them quickly. There are other stages that seem to take forever. You may even find yourself coming back to a particular stage when triggered by an event or object. There is no “right” way to process this loss, you are only looking to find your own way.
Right now, you are going through denial/shock, as this is often the first stage. Here is where you feel emotionless, numb and cold. It is an emotional defense mechanism. You don’t yet know how to process what is happening, so your emotional side shuts down. It is easy to get stuck here because there is no pain, but there is also no happiness. Here you only experience the all encompassing “blah” of life. It is neither depression, for that requires an emotional response, nor mania, it is just a constant feeling of sameness.
Your goal is to push past this stage and move on to the next stages, which will awaken feelings of anger, reflection, loneliness, pain… and eventually find you at acceptance and healing. At the same time, there is no need to rush. Each person processes at a different pace, so allow yourself the time needed to adjust to your new circumstances. To help set your intention for transformational healing, you should call upon some winged friends: butterflies.
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Butterfly Release Ceremony
The butterfly is a symbol of transformation. Imagine the amount of transformation one goes through from egg to caterpillar, then forming the cocoon and eventually coming out a butterfly. This is the same as your transformation path. Right now you are a caterpillar forming a cocoon. As you enter this safe space, you begin a journey into the unknown. It may take some time alone to allow the lesson of the butterfly to take form and transform into the person you will become, but when you are done, you will celebrate with joy, more symbols of the butterfly.
“Butterflies remind us that life is a dance, not to take things quite so seriously. They teach us that growth and transformation does not have to traumatic; it can occur gently, sweetly, joyfully.”
In Native American cultures, it is customary to release butterflies at transformational celebrations, such as weddings and funerals. I encourage you to have your own butterfly release ceremony to liberate your emotions and tell the Universe that you are ready to move to the next stage of your grieving process. You can acquire butterflies in many ways, but the best is to purchase them from a commercial farm that specializes in release butterflies. If you do not have access to one, you can draw a butterfly on a piece of paper and release it in a windy area or down a cliff. Please take the time of year and day into consideration when releasing a butterfly. There are seasons and times when they will not fly, which means that you still need more time to process where you are.
When you are ready to release your butterfly, take it in your hands and whisper the feelings you wish for it to transform. A butterfly makes no sound, so all that you say will be carried off leaving no trace behind. Tell the butterfly your pains, fears, heartaches and anything else around the relationship of the past you wish to be free of. Then tell the butterfly your hopes and dreams. Allow the words to mix, then express your appreciation for the transformational work the butterfly is doing and give it its freedom. Allow it to fly off to the heavens with your message, putting your faith that the Universe is listening.
Gently, your emotionless stage will transform, taking you through the other stages of grief and into healing. Accept all the help you are offered along the way, you never know who was sent by the butterfly.
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Fraser asks:
Have you ever heard of a mind storm or a psychic storm? At home, I have a bit of conflict going on at the moment: job, lifestyle, etc. About 2pm this afternoon, I felt and could see with my inner eye, felt more than I could see, a wall of something I can only describe as a wall of terror; a storm of violence of unimaginable power and torment. I saw it as an approaching wall of red, fiery energy, but felt all of the other stuff I have described. I am going to sleep now to do a bit of astral travel to get to a safe place tonight, I hope. I look forward to your input.
Inspirations from Binah replies:
In the movie “The Matrix”, Neo is filled with questions about the Matrix he feels is controlling his world. All his life he has felt it, felt a power that surrounds him, manipulating his actions. As he tumbles down the rabbit hole discovering truth previously hidden, Neo realizes that while there are those that intentionally manipulate the world, they can only be successful because individuals give them the power to do so.
“The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. Even now, in this very room. You can see it when you look out your window or when you turn on your television. You can feel it when you go to work… when you go to church… when you pay your taxes.” -Morpheus.
The Matrix is energy, the energy of the Mind manifested into “reality”. There are millions of lightworkers, coaches, authors, and healers that have been trying from the beginning of time to teach us one pivotal lesson, a lesson so important that it is the first axiom of the Hermetic Principles – the “Principle of Mentalism”: The All is Mind; The Universe is Mental.
What you felt that afternoon was the manifestation of all the conflict in your life. You subconsciously focused all your energy into one vision, a storm of pure terror and violence so strong that it pierced through veils on a path toward physical reality. You were able to calm the storm by going to a safe place in the astral, but it is vital that you neutralize this energy because it is feeding off your emotions and fueling your conflicts. If left unattended, it will continue to grow and manifest itself through failed projects, anger and resentment.
Morpheus could only guide Neo toward a simple truth; Neo had to discover it for himself:
“I’m trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You’re the one that has to walk through it.” -Morpheus
We each have the power to control the energy of the world, but that also means that we have to work together in order to create a united vision. It is through compassion and mercy tempered with the force of our actions that we reach the balanced beauty that will show us the path to unity. Sometimes, you have to make a willing sacrifice in order to create a reality that fills the needs of all involved.
The next time you feel the storm brewing, take a few deep breaths and visualize a stream of blue light flowing from your body directly toward the center of the negative energy. Will this energy to cool the red fire with the power of love and compassion. Continue to flow this light until the storm subsides. Though this is only a bandage, it will transmute negativity into positivity in order to give you time to work on the source of the conflict via your spiritual and emotional development.
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With pleasure we offer you the April 2011 issue of the spiritual Lounge E-Magazine including Inspiration from Binah’s answer:
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